Why did you lie? I kid you not, I’ve been there before. But it hurt when you finally confessed the truth. Unfortunately, I can’t forbid you to see him anymore.

You’re at the age where you’re making your own decisions. The age where I have no control and must allow you to be free and fly. But why did you lie? We are closer than that. I feel so disrespected. My door has always been opened. You were never neglected.

When the situation happened, I didn’t doubt you for a minute. You told me the story and I believed every word of it. So why did you lie?

Now I have this feeling of disgust because you felt like he was the one you could trust. When I have been here for you since the beginning. Why did you lie?

As I sat there, tears began to form in my eyes. For the first time I felt my heart crack in two from you. Since your birth I’ve done all I could to take care of you and provide. Now my little girl is experiencing this great big world. All that replays in my mind is, “Why did you lie?”

Today, I continue to process this new feeling. I told you that you are forgiven so that I can begin healing. God tells us there is nothing that will ever separate us from His love. The same is true from me to you.

I am not perfect myself and I am not expecting you to be. I will just continue to pray that you choose the better way and not allow anyone to lead you astray.

-Rose

Why Did You Lie? I believe it is good to write out our thoughts as we are experiencing emotions in the moment. This poem is a result of that. I had trouble sleeping early this morning because my oldest daughter told me some news that really hurt me. She is 19 years old. Is in college. Has a job and her own car. She is doing very well and has a lot going for herself. Our mother-daughter relationship is great. She is obedient and never gives me any trouble. She is a respectable young lady and I believe I have done a great job raising her. I am proud of her. Last night she opened up to me about some things. She knows she can talk to me about anything. Sometimes it may take her a few weeks or months to tell me, but she eventually lets me in. I’m not the type of parent that is going to beat you over the head to get something out of you. I give her space until she is ready to talk.

She has never given me any reason to distrust her. She has always been honest with me, until yesterday. There was an incident that happened at the end of October. She called and told me what had occurred and I took the necessary action to get it resolved. I didn’t think twice about it. It did put a bit of extra strain on me financially, but life happens. After everything settled we continued to move on. Fast forward to yesterday, the truth finally came out of her that the situation was caused by someone else and she made the decision to cover for him. Took the blame for someone she has only known for a few months. It shocked me honestly when she revealed the truth. It hurt me deeply.

The first thing that came to my mind when she confessed was when I held on to a secret and lied in the past. This heart posture helped me to respond with grace instead of lashing out in anger at her. God is gracious, merciful, forgiving, and patient with me and I do not deserve it. He commands that we are the same towards others. I also did not want to run the risk of pushing her away. Instead, I chose to show her love and understanding while also letting her know how this news made me feel. Of course I also lectured her because I’m her mom. She is young and is experiencing new areas of life that she wasn’t exposed to before. Even with all my lecturing and sharing my experiences to help guide and prepare her, she is still going to make her own decisions. It’s part of growing and being a young adult. She is going to fall and make mistakes. I’ve been there. I still make mistakes today. As a parent we want the best for our kids. We don’t want them to make the same mistakes as us.

We have to allow our kids to make mistakes so they can learn and grow just like we did. I’m still learning and growing. We can’t control what someone will do, but we can control how we choose to respond. It helps to be reminded of our own short comings and choose forgiveness because God forgives us when we turn to Him and repent.

✝️“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭14‬-‭15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/116/mat.6.14-15.NLT